
Jalandhara Bandha, Enjoying Vacation and Gloria Steinem
November 24, 2024
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{Body}
Jalandhara bandha
In yoga, the positioning of the skull is as important (if not more important) than the positioning of the entire spine and pelvis.
This is because the head contains the brain and brain stem, both of which use an incredible amount of life force to operate.
That’s why yogis developed the “jalandhara bandha” or throat lock — a technique for straightening out your neck, expanding your jaw, and making your entire skull larger for energy to enter and move around in more easily.
{Mind}
Unable to relax and enjoy my vacation
Many of us only get through the long work days by dangling the carrot of vacation in front of us.
“I’m working more hours today so that tomorrow I can get off work early.” “I don’t like what I do, but it affords me to go to nice places.” “I only have 10 more years of this before I can retire and be free.”
Just minutes (or hours or days) after unplugging, though, many find themselves unable to actually enjoy the space they asked for.
Or they can enjoy it, but only if their minds are being stimulated by experiences (constant excursions or events, big meals or day drinking, catching up on media or hours of gaming).
There are three likely reasons for your inability to relax into stillness during vacation:
Part of you believes you don’t deserve to slow down. That you must earn your vacation every day.
You’re already imagining what’s next in terms of work.
You are unwilling to look at the emotions you repressed to get here.
In other words, you can’t fully sink into your vacation simply because you aren’t allowing yourself to be present with what is. Either you’re judging yourself for what you chose, preparing yourself for an unpredictable future, or don’t like what’s happening now.
Either way, your nervous system is busy fighting demons instead of absorbing the harmonious vibrations of silence and being.
I suggest the following:
Whenever you feel restless during vacation, set a timer for a minimum of five minutes and breathe deeply to the count of 4-7-8 (Inhale 4, Hold 7, Exhale 8).
Answer the following question in your mind or in your journal: what emotion and I unwilling to feel right now?
Look and listen to something in nature. A tree, the clouds, the ocean, birds flying overhead.
{Soul}
Truth rarely arrives gently. It can scream through an already loud world, dismantling any and all illusions you’ve built for yourself.
Your first response to it — anger, resistance, denial — isn’t actually aimed at truth, but at the clarity and integrity it demands of you.
Consider the moment you realized a relationship wasn’t healthy, or when you faced an uncomfortable fact about yourself. You didn’t hate the truth, you hated the actions necessary to make things right.
Sitting with what is true — and taking the steps necessary to realign to it — takes incredible courage. But on the other side of that discomfort is an earned freedom.

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